Insecurities are a dangerous and thieving trait to have, they can create a character in you that will take over and make you a spiteful bitter person, someone that lives with strong insecurities and jealousy is often robbed of fully enjoying themselves and the worst part? Sometimes, it can be such a long standing mindset that you dont even see it.
I wanted to write about this as a subject as recently there has been someone in my friends circle that has these characteristics and their personality became the elephant in the room. I’m aware of the controversy in publishing this, and that some of you reading may know who I’m basing this on but I believe it’s important and at the end of the day we’re all adults and some of us need to hear this.
I’ve found that the louder and more intent someone is about having to be in charge, known, heard, and occasionally feared, the more of a bravado it may be. It may be a case of jealousy and fear in themselves.
I’m not a master of psychology by any stretch, but I’ve observed enough people to be able to say confidently that the “loud mouth, small mind” saying, has a lot of weight behind it. There are people out there, fully grown, independent adults with minds so closed and uninteresting that they have to belittle others, throw them under the bus, and constantly be “on” for fear of being human, making a mistake, and not looking like the top dog. It must be so tiring. And lonely!
Of course, I don’t know what goes on behind closed doors, nor do I know what made these people this way. But I fully believe that they weren’t born being nasty and bitter, they just give too many monkeys.
NOT GIVING A DAMN IS THE BEST THING EVER.
Surely we’re at a point now, in this day and age where anyone can be anything and being yourself should be more than enough? Why are we still comparing ourselves to such an extent that we lose our happiness and become bitter, jealous people that can’t just get on with things and have to have an opinion on everything.
No one wants to be talked about as a bitch or a dick but it’s only us that can actively put out something else to be known for. But be genuine, if you are a bitch, go and do something to radicalise your life and actually get some perspective on things will you?
Niceness class 101:
Smile more. The simplest of all movements with subliminal messages that will make you happier.
Be genuine. I can’t advise anymore specifically on this for obvious reasons.
Help people without expecting anything in return or to be able to brag about it. Just help.
Have a say in a group decision, but don’t throw a strop of you don’t get you way.
Give people space, as nice as some people are, everyone needs a little space from time to time. Especially from you if you are a bitch.
Think before you speak. Didn’t your mum ever tell you not to say anything if you can’t say anything nice?
Take up a cardio class. Do something productive like spinning, or boxing where you can realise all those nasty neg vibes and come away feeling like a better person.
Some say that a leopard can’t change their spots, but we should surely have faith that change is inevitable and with the right kind of encouragement, attitudes can change for the better too. It’s a shame when you socialise with someone that you think will be your friend but their true personality is brought to light when something doesn’t go their way. I probably have too much faith in people most of the time but on occasion, ties need to be cut, and you need to let go of anything that doesn’t have a positive impact on your life. It’s not always easy, and sometimes it can be a long time coming, but the longer you wait, the harder it can be. Recognising your worth is a key point and knowing that you deserve more than to be treated badly by the poisonous vampires that will use you for their own needs and not because they respect you and your friendship is something that really does need to be done sooner rather than later.
Just a little food for thought type of post for you, what are your thoughts on what how to make bitter people sweet again?
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